Just because you went through the motions of cutting ties with your ex, doesn’t mean you’ve lost all feelings for them. There is no denying that they spent many happy moments together that cannot be easily dismissed. Those ties are something that you feel unites them. Are there enough feelings in your ex to warrant that you have a chance to win them back?
What exactly does that mean when you still say you’re in love?
It is a very valid statement as there was once a mutual attraction and love on which to build a relationship. It was a beautiful sentiment that they both treasured. Certainly, in the case of a long-term relationship or marriage, there are many shared memories. Hopefully most of them will be memorable for their degree of happiness.
Beware of the illusion that residual feelings of love are enough to justify a reunion. Just because you are lonely or lingering on past romantic feelings is not enough of a reason to want your ex back, you have to be really sure about your reasons. Knowing in your heart of hearts that you are only looking for what looks familiar may not be the best option. Getting back together under those circumstances, it is likely that they will eventually break up, since their meeting is not based on anything certain. Maybe the relationship is better if you two are just friends. There’s nothing really wrong with that.
Once you have determined that you really want and love your ex, then you have a bit of work ahead of you. Determine if your ex is interested in rekindling the connection. If so, it will happen gradually without much effort. Try to be patient by giving him time to figure things out.
Once the two of you come to a mutual decision, then it’s time to start working on a new and improved relationship. If it was a marriage that was about to end, then you should seek the advice of a marriage counselor. In either case, a session with a licensed counselor can benefit any couple seeking reparation. Most relationships could use a little fine-tuning from time to time. If your counselor isn’t a good fit for both of you, find someone who is.
There are many good counselors who will be able to help you. Both of you must be willing to seek advice in the first place. If you’re still in love with your ex, there’s no need to stay down. Be alert for any opportunity to talk to your Ex. If you’ve laid the foundation for effective communication, you’ll be able to effectively follow the advice of a counselor, which is all you need.
And soon you won’t be claiming them as your “Ex” anymore, instead they will be your soul mate.
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