If you recently lost your girlfriend, chances are you have lost her respect in an attempt to win her back. And whether she knows it or not, this is the number one obstacle standing in the way of her getting back together with her.
You see, rejection is a hard pill to swallow. But when it comes from someone you love, it leads you to think and act in ways that defy logic. Emotion leads to despair, and your actions overshadow your fundamental qualities (qualities that made her fall for you in the first place). For example, begging for a second chance is a classic example of this (and a mistake almost every man makes). Your ex girlfriend will not accept this type of behavior.
It is impossible to make him change his mind about the breakup by applying extreme pressure tactics. Not only are they counterproductive, but they cause him to lose respect for you in the process. This leads to a vicious cycle that leads to even more mistakes, more rejection, and even more loss of self-esteem.
So what is the solution? Give him the space he asked for, but don’t just sit there and wait for him to come to you. Take the opportunity to correct any mistakes you have made and get back in “shape” as soon as possible. That’s the only way to get it back.
See, getting a girl back after a breakup is not about tricks, tactics and techniques. Without the right mindset behind them, they are just useless ploys in an attempt to manipulate the situation. And even if you manage to win her back with tricks… your happiness won’t last long. If you haven’t put in the effort to become the man she first fell in love with, to regain your self esteem from her and hers… it won’t be long before she leaves you again.
Because? Because you’ll still be the same needy guy.
However, by taking the time to focus on the aspects of your life that don’t involve your ex, and boosting your self-esteem in the process, you’ll have a very healthy chance of salvaging your relationship.
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