How to talk dirty to my boyfriend, or more specifically, exactly what to say
Many women feel the need to talk dirty to their boyfriend. Either because your boyfriend has asked you outright, or has kindly hinted that he’d like you to do it, or maybe he just wasn’t that subtle and like a bolt of lightning unexpectedly hit you between the eyes the last time you did it. they were making love with the expression “talk dirty to me baby”.
Whatever the reasons you’re looking to learn how to talk dirty to your boyfriend, the honest answer is that it’s really not that difficult.
Sure, you may be struggling with the two biggest issues associated with talking dirty, namely embarrassment or uncertainty about what to say, but you can do it.
The embarrassment of talking dirty out loud is a topic that we have already covered in another article on talking dirty. This piece is to answer the real “How to…” part of the problem.
Working on the fairly safe assumption that you know how to talk, the real problem is not so much “How…” as “What…”. What to say, what words to pronounce?
This is where you will need to meet your boyfriend. Men are pretty low creatures, a certain number of generalizations and assumptions can be made (especially when it comes to all things sex!), so what we need to do is mold and modify their dirty talk to be suit your man’s sexual interest levels.
After all, it doesn’t make much sense for you to talk about an element of sex that he finds off-putting. No safe way to end any fun or game has been invented!
Ask yourself the following question.
When my boyfriend and I make love, what do we do? What positions do you enjoy, what pre and post activities make you want to start? If you know your guy very well, what fantasies does he have, what comments has he made over the months or years that show interest in a specific aspect?
As you can answer this basic question, you will determine what it says.
Let’s take an example.
You know that your boyfriend loves to see you in feminine, frilly and light underwear. He uses that as the basis for what you would say.
For example: “Do you know what I would like to do for you right now? I would like to go take a shower, relax, and get soft and clean. Then I could put on some special underwear for you.” What would you like to see me in, in a favorite piece?
So let him answer, and this is important. He needs to think about this because by thinking about his response, he will automatically start thinking about what will happen beyond dressing you for him. He begins to paint a mental picture of the two of you together. This is your extra special ‘Joker’ to play. You are getting him to handle what you need or can say with his actions and responses.
Once he has responded, you can go and take a bath or, if it is not the right time at the moment, you can put on the selected clothes and then ask him “What would you like to do to me now if I let you?”
Again, let him think and respond. All you need to do then is take his response, imagine it in his context and together, and talk to him about what you think would happen!
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