You are at a party and you are introduced to a friend of a friend. She seems like your type of girl and you want to make a good impression. You start a conversation; ask her about her job, how she knows your friend, and what she has planned for the weekend. You talk some more, but soon run out of things to talk about.
Has this happened to you? Ever felt like she was just going through the routine “getting to know us” questions? One thing that many men don’t realize is how often men approach women and ask them the exact same questions. It’s no surprise that girls don’t respond to small talk; They are sick of answering the same questions! If you want to get noticed, you need to change your approach.
Being able to hold a conversation is not enough. You need to keep her interested, make her laugh, and enjoy talking to you. There are so many things you can do to liven up your conversations. A good way is to play some games with her to bring some fun to her conversations. They can easily be incorporated into any conversation, making them very useful if you ever run out of things to talk about or have trouble keeping her interested. Here’s an example, it’s called 5 questions.
B: “Hey, I have a cool game to play.”
G: “Okay.”
B: “The game is called 5 questions. This is how it works. I will ask you 5 questions. If you can answer all 5 questions incorrectly then you win, otherwise I win.”
G: “Incorrectly? Don’t you mean correctly?”
B: “No, I mean incorrectly. For example, if I ask you ‘what planet are we on?’ you would have to answer ‘Mars’ or some planet other than Earth. If you answer my 5 questions incorrectly then you win.”
G: “Ahhh okay, I get it. This will be easy haha.”
B: “Okay… First question. What color dress are you wearing?”
G: “Blue.” (she wears a black dress)
B: “Oooo good, second question. Hmmm… what time is it?”
G: “Noon.” (the time is 9 at night)
B: “Okay, smart pants. Third question… what song is playing?”
G: “I kissed a girl!” (A song by The Killers plays.)
B: “That’s good…” (Now do something that makes it look like you’re momentarily distracted. If you’re sitting down and holding your phone, you might “accidentally” drop it or notice that your shoelace is loose and bent. bend down to re-tie him.As you bend down to pick up the phone you just dropped, ask him casually…) “What question are we asking again?” (Your face should look like you’re trying to remember how many questions you’ve asked so far.)
G: “Oven”
B: “Haha I got you. I win.”
G: “Ohhh nooo I didn’t know it was one of the questions!”
If you seem genuinely distracted when you drop your phone or whatever distraction you choose to use, nine times out of ten it will catch her off guard and she won’t realize that asking her what question you’re asking is actually a question.
But what if she doesn’t fall for it and answers incorrectly? I hear you ask. “Question number 1 billion!” for example. Well, don’t worry, she still has her fifth question to ask, remember!
B: “What question are we asking again?”
G: “Question number 1 billion!”
B: “Ohhh, you’ve played this game before, haven’t you?!” (As he says this, he should look annoyed as if she cheated. She may even give him a little push as if saying that she cheated.)
G: “Nahhhh, I didn’t promise!”
B: “Haha, I understand! You answered the fifth question correctly, so I won!”
This is a very fun game to play and it always works if you can pull it off naturally. To make it sound more natural, customize the first 3 questions to ask questions specific to the situation. You can even make it a bit more interesting by betting on the fact that you will win. For example, “okay, if I win, you have to get on the podium and dance to the next song!”. Let her decide what happens if she wins.
Games are a great way to liven up your conversations! Give them a try and remember that the key is to have fun with the girl.
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