Anger Management for Kids: Don’t Fight Anger, Learn From It
Managing children’s anger is the only aspect of parenting where wealthy parents readily admit they need help. I spoke to a mother last week that she has a 6 year old son who she told me was “hell on earth”. When she was asked what made her so, she had a long list of offenses that she had committed in the previous week.
On Monday he hit his little brother over the head with an Xbox controller, on Tuesday he got into a fight with a girl over a grilled cheese sandwich, on Wednesday he stole $3 from his mom’s purse to buy candy from the vending machine. the school. The look of frustration on her face meant that she probably could have continued the story for the next week, so I interrupted her to ask the following question… “What have you learned from her behavior? “
She looked at me with a puzzled look on her face, so I repeated the question “What has your son’s behavior taught you?” After thinking about the question for a few minutes, she looked at me and said “nothing”. That is where the culprit lies because he has been missing a golden opportunity to learn something about his son.
His next question was “How do you learn from such grim and terrible situations?” You learn the same way you learn from any other situation: one small step at a time. But to begin with, I asked him to keep an eye on the situation the next time an emotional outburst occurred. Look at things like what time of day, because he could be tired and that could be triggering unwanted negative emotions. I asked him to note his activity level just before he showed aggression. This could let you know that he is bored and that aggression may be his way of getting attention.
Children are not born with bad habits; Bad habits are learned over months and years of growing up with parents, siblings, electronic devices, friends, etc. If a parent wants to excel in the area of managing children’s anger, he will need to learn about his child’s behavior. unresponsive emotions. Learning what makes your child tick will give you the edge in defusing any aggressive situation.
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