Do you use sex as bait to get men involved? Have you considered the negative side?
Sex is only a temporary pleasure, and the adverse consequences are more than meets the eye.
When you are single and continue to be emotionally and intimately involved with the opposite sex, you expose yourself to sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, etc. and, in particular, the dreaded ‘Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome’, AIDS. Millions of people around the world, especially young people who are more sexually active, have died from this disease. Not to mention many more who have been kept miserable over the years by these STDs.
Many young women indulged themselves as sex machines in the men’s bedrooms due to their poverty mentality. Many of them are not working. Some are so lazy they don’t even want to work. You don’t have money to cover your most basic needs. They cannot afford something as cheap as sanitary napkins to control their monthly menstrual cycles. As a result, you use sex to trap men into giving you money.
In order to remain fashion conscious and savvy, many women sacrifice their bodies. Although your income is small, you want to keep up with fashion. You have a lot of boyfriends just because you need a lot of ‘donors’ to be able to continue living your fake life.
Why is this a problem?
In the course of these sexual escapades, many young women have contracted unwanted pregnancies. When you conceive a stranger, you are faced with two monsters. One, you go through an abortion to end the pregnancy or two, you deliver the baby as a bastard. During the operation, mostly performed by healers, some women suffer lifelong damage to the uterus. And others dump their newborns in garbage collection centers or bushes where they eventually cry themselves to death or are collected for orphaned baby homes.
The Scripture says that the love of money is the root of all evil. Today, most men love money more than anything else. And they want easy money and that’s why they visit idols where they make all kinds of sacrifices to get money. Women who easily fall in love with men become prey in the hands of those evil men.
Sex is not equal to love. When you submit to a man sexually, he will use you, abuse you, and abandon you. That relationship eventually ends and you become the loser because you will feel disappointed, rejected, frustrated and abandoned.
On the other hand, when you exhibit good conduct and good character, you become your man’s favorite. You command respect. You demand honor. It imposes dignity. Your man cares about you and pays more attention to you and your needs. They will propose it to you. They will get married and experience the kind of relationships they have always dreamed of together.
When I was still single and looking for my perfect life partner, I went on several dates. What I discovered was that I had more respect and honor for those of whom I had no carnal knowledge. I worried more about them. I called and texted them more frequently. I paid more attention to them and their well-being. But once I had sex with anyone, the love and emotions started to wane. If it was someone I didn’t really like, I could easily skip to that point because there seemed to be nothing left to explore.
What do you do instead to attract the love of your life?
First, you need to set your limits. You need to establish your deciding factors. Those are your standards that are your values that you cannot compromise. You kindly, early on, let your partner know that sex, for example, is a ‘no-go’ area for you in the relationship. You must maintain your integrity because that limit will be tested. The boy would like to check if you meant it.
You have to be a woman of good character. You will be polite, kind and considerate. Extend an olive branch to your partner and to all who cross your path. Be authentic and be vulnerable! Openness is a great virtue.
Don’t be self centered. Think more about what you can do for him. Support him to achieve his goals to the extent that you are invited. Offer advice or help only when asked. Give him peace of mind and never try to change him.
They say that an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Of course, get involved in meaningful activities. If you don’t have a job, learn a skill or another that you are passionate about. You can also join any volunteer service you love in your area. The idea is to stay busy and engage meaningfully.
In general, if you maintain your sanity and virginity, you become irresistible to quality men. No man likes any woman who uses sex to set him up. Marriage is honorable and is a sacred institution that need not desecrate her body before the opportune moment arrives.
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