Couples often say that they married their best friend. Well, maybe, but your spouse doesn’t always have the key ingredient that your best friend does. What should we call it? It can be different for each person. For me, I would call it speaking the same language.
My childhood friend is still my best friend to this day. When we were children, both parents said that the other girl spoke loudly or too fast. The fact is that we speak the same language. We both have wonderful husbands. Our two husbands are gentle and supportive.
I love my husband, but from time to time I need time for my girlfriend. My friend and I can go from venting to crying to laughing, all in the same conversation. We speak too loud and we have to control ourselves to lower our tone. We speak fast and our tone rises with excitement.
Neither of us are rich and have had different life experiences, but there are no judgments or pretenses and what you see is exactly what you get. You don’t have to clean the house before you can enter. Take it as is or leave it. Messy situations in life are what they are. The trip is once in a lifetime.
We accept the children of others as they are. The door is always open and the sofa is ready if necessary. We have been through marriages, divorces, births, and losses. We pick up right where we left off like it was yesterday.
One day our bodies will start to sag, styles will change, the world will move on with each new generation. We will take care of the medical needs of the spouses and will probably start talking about doctor visits like our elders did. Our children and grandchildren probably won’t want to hear it, but we all end up the same with age.
I suspect that even when we have gray hair, we will still be like the high school, high school, young mothers, and protective home matriarchs that we have always been. Our husbands are likely to keep smiling and getting carried away by our conversations. We are probably talking too loud and too fast. What can I say? We speak the same language. Yes, that’s definitely the key ingredient for us.
When life gets you down, you don’t need unsolicited advice or substances, not even paid therapy. A good hour in good company wherever they want you will do.
