Relations. They are a great thing when they are right. Two people coming together and sharing a deep, loving bond that is pure, honest, genuine, and nothing short of divine – that’s powerful. When two people are aligned with each other’s life vision and come together to improve each other’s lives, what a dynamic duo. So if you’re single and want a relationship, I imagine that might be what you’re looking for. And that kind of love can happen for you. But not if you settle. Several women today seem to be okay with accepting breadcrumbs from men. They are desperate to be in a relationship or at least have someone, so they tolerate receiving mere drops of attention or affection. The main reason I think women settle down is because we are programmed to do so. They started with dolls and dollhouses from a very young age, conditioning us that our role is to take care of the home and be good women for our husbands. So we grow up fantasizing about our wedding day, our knight in shining armor, and starting a family: the perfect picture of the American dream. And 30 somehow became the magic age when this perfect dream should happen. So if you hit 30 and you’re single, then society leads you to believe that something is wrong with you. And so we begin to question our worth as a woman. Contrary to popular belief, a woman’s purpose on this earth is NOT just to be a wife. It’s not just being a mother. Every woman was blessed with gifts and talents by God, so in addition to using those gifts, she can choose to become a wife and/or mother. You are NOT defined by a man or your relationship status. Many women get into relationships for the wrong reasons and continue to end in disaster. To avoid repeating the same cycles like a broken record, here are some signs that you may be in a relationship for the wrong reasons:
in a hurry You reach the age of 30 (or more) and you panic. You think you are old. Somehow you are convinced that if you are 35 years old, for example, you are old. Well, that mindset is what will get you into the wrong relationship because your intention in a relationship is not to be too old and have someone instead of being with the right person. You think you have to hurry because your biological clock is ticking. And while some may argue that statistics show that the older a woman gets, the more difficult it is for her to conceive, there are also plenty of women who give birth to healthy babies over the age of 30. According to Americanpregnancy.org, “Many women today find themselves trying to conceive after the age of 35. This opportunity can be full of joy and full of questions. Despite some challenges, many women in their thirties and forties successfully conceive.” . I get that you want to give yourself the best chance when it comes to fertility, but would you rather hurry up and mate for life with a son of the wrong man or hope for God’s best? I hope you prefer the latter. Rushing into a relationship can’t be good.
Filling a Void. Do you really want a relationship or are you just bored? You are alone? Sometimes we get into relationships to fill a void. We are looking for a person to fill a void in our lives that can only be filled with our own self-love. You need to get back to some activities you like. Get back to your goals and dreams. What are your passions? What cheers you up? You want a relationship to fill something internally. You are looking for external validation to make you feel worthy; if you get into a relationship, then that shows that they still want you. Well, if you go into a relationship looking for someone to prove your worth to you, then don’t be surprised if it doesn’t pan out. Only you must determine its value. Work on yourself. Invest in yourself. Give yourself back. In other words, take some time for yourself. In this way you will fill yourself and you will not need to look for a relationship to fill a void in your life.
You are not ready. Are you really ready for a relationship? Are you really ready to do the work necessary to build a strong foundation from scratch or are you just in love with the idea of being in a relationship? Many of us are simply not ready for love. We think we are because we watch romantic movies or read romantic novels. Unless you’re willing to take your time and really get to know someone below the surface, you’re not ready. You are not ready to make another person a priority. You are not really in a space to give to another person. Love comes to give. You have to keep the other person in mind when it comes to certain things. You can’t behave like or have a single mindset if you’re going to be in a relationship. You have to start preparing for it. Do you really think about whether you’re really ready to fully commit to someone else or, honestly, do you just like the idea of the whole thing? Give up the fairy tale. It is not reality.
I believe in love. I believe that people can manifest true love. I believe that we can all have the love that we want and deserve by right, but we should not settle for it. We need to do the inner work within ourselves as well. Let’s be clear about where we are in life. A relationship (or marriage) is not going to magically make everything better. Do the inner work and be honest with yourself about your intention for a relationship. Don’t rush into a relationship just to have one. You deserve so much more. you are a queen. Love yourself enough to hope for the best.
Source: http://americanpregnancy.org/getting-pregnant/trying-to-conceive-after-age-35/
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