Whenever you decide to enter into a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship, it’s best to negotiate all the details beforehand; so that there are no long-term hurt feelings or misunderstandings. As a sugar baby, any time you talk about money, this can be a tricky situation because you don’t want to sound like a gold digger. But there is a way to approach any topic, and a true sugar daddy will understand and even respect your openness to negotiating all the details up front.
Depending on how you put your sugar daddy will depend on how easy it is to negotiate your contract. If you put it on a “sugar daddy” website, this may be the easiest way to negotiate your contract because many times the stipulations are mentioned in your profile. So if you mentioned in your profile what you expect as gifts and/or allowances, then there should be no surprises when you mention it.
That said, you’ll also want to be tasteful in how you approach the subject. For those sugar babies who put their sugar daddy online, when you decide to meet him in person, let the date flow naturally first. If during the first date, you both feel a connection to each other, you can go ahead and ask her if she read his profile and if she felt that his terms agreed with him. From there you can start the negotiation process. However, nothing should surprise him because if he reads your profile, he should already know what you expect. So since he still communicated with you, then obviously his terms are agreed with him. It’s just a matter of confirming it verbally.
For those sugar babies who haven’t met their sugar daddy online, mentioning a contract can be shaky territory. This is because your potential sugar daddy may never have been in this type of relationship before and may not understand where you are coming from. If this is the case, it’s probably best to have at least two or three dates to get him comfortable with you, before trying to negotiate a contract. Before throwing away an allowance and what you want, you can first try to explain the dynamics of the sugar daddy/baby relationship and how you think it is best to come up with terms that are of interest to both of you, so that there is no confusion.
As in the case of the sugar daddy you meet online, if it’s a sugar daddy who has been in this type of arrangement before, then again, negotiating shouldn’t be a problem. This can be done on the first date, once you are sure you are comfortable with each other. The only difference is that you should open the conversation by asking him what his proposed assignment is and start your negotiation from there.
Last but not least, it’s the unsuspecting rich man you’re trying to turn into your sugar daddy that can be the trickiest. This negotiation is going to be the hardest because he doesn’t know what you’re trying to do or what to expect. Having said that, he won’t want to just come in and try to negotiate a contract. Instead, go out with him for a few dates. Give him a feel to see if he would be open to this type of arrangement. This may even mean that there is no formal contract between the two of you for a while. He may still be able to receive gifts at his own expense, but not a set allowance.
