Almost everywhere you look you will find someone talking about forgiveness. Forgiveness can be very empowering and speed you up on your path to authenticity. If you’re in a place of thinking that’s easier said than done, here are steps that can help you achieve success in forgiving yourself and others.
Write down everything that triggers you and the person or people with whom it is associated. This can be anything from your childhood to the present.
Write down any obsessive thoughts that play in your mind over and over again. Obsessive thoughts can prevent you from having the energy you need for your daily activities. Not to mention the wonderful creative projects waiting for your attention.
Choose one of any of the above; it can be one that is less triggering, or you can decide to pick the hardest one to finish.
Connect with your higher power and say a short prayer for help with this situation and the person(s) involved.
Write down everything that bothers you, everything you can remember about the situation down to the last detail. Do not censor yourself in any way. You want to annotate everything, down to the last bit, so you don’t have to go there again. It doesn’t matter how it sounds because no one else will read it.
When you feel like you’ve said all you need to say, burn the paper in a fireplace or outside in a closed area. As the smoke rises, allow all the feelings you have about the situation and the people involved to rise with the smoke; really let it go, turning it all over to your higher power. Really feel it come out of your body as you breathe deeply. Of course not from the smoke.
Now write, “I forgive myself for allowing (insert situation) to get to me, I forgive myself for any role I played in (insert situation). I forgive (blank) for their role in (insert situation).” Be sure to forgive all parties involved, including yourself, in every situation. Now read this out loud with the greatest meaning and conviction of heart. Truly empowering every word with your authentic voice.
When you let go of things that block your energy, you need to replace them with something else or they can come back in. For each situation you clear, create a short, positive phrase that feels good and reinforces your sense of well-being. If you make several at once, you can create a picture of words, a collage, with all your phrases. It’s a nice reminder of the good work you’ve done.
Take a moment when you are done, and breathe the loving, healing white light of your higher power down through the crown of your head, through your body, into every cell, into your very DNA. Then breathe deeply and slowly as you push the healing light through your pores, surrounding you, enveloping you with the loving, healing white light of your higher power.
Working through all of the steps above, down to the breathing exercise, is an example of the Sacred Life Ceremony. It is what has been lacking in society as a whole. Following these steps can help enrich your life. It can give you more energy, feelings of empowerment, and strength to do whatever it takes; everything you like, we have it daily.
