Get Your Spouse Back By Being Happy And Avoiding These 5 Relationship Mistakes
Can you get back together with your spouse, just being happy? Well yes, but as you can probably guess, there’s more to it than that. I certainly don’t mean that you should go around grinning like an idiot all the time. People will think you’re… an idiot! But you should try to have a positive outlook on life.
Be satisfied with your lot and your place in the universe, while trying to improve yourself, if you want. Tell yourself sternly, look: I only go through this life once (that I know of). I might as well enjoy it, despite my difficulties and setbacks. I gain nothing by being sad and depressed. If I AM sad and depressed more than occasionally, I will see a doctor.
You will enjoy your work, your friends, and your life much more if you start each day with a happy and positive outlook. But the real reward is in your relationships with other people, especially your ex. Everyone likes cheerful and optimistic people. Like moths to a flame, we are simply drawn to them and like to be around them.
It is usually a pleasure to interact or work with such people. Think again. No doubt you came across this guy from time to time, in your life. I’m sure you had a nice and pleasant experience with them.
Now you have a goal ahead.: get the spouse back. He or she also wants to be around a good, encouraging, and positive person. So avoid being negative or sad. Put yourself in situations where there are happy and joyful emotions. Stay away from negative and pessimistic people. Take up a new hobby, like gardening or photography, at your neighborhood community center, where you’ll work as a group.
Do the hobby for its own sake, because you enjoy it, not to win prizes or medals. Enjoy who you are right now and where you are in life right now. Your ex will notice the change in you and will also respond positively. This could actually be the basis of a fresh start for the two of you.
relationship errors:
The next step in your goal of getting your spouse back is to avoid these five common mistakes people make in their relationships. Here they are, in no particular order.
Don’t worry about the little things We all do little things that others may find annoying, or eventually drive our peers completely crazy. Leaving the cap on a toothpaste tube and not turning off the lights when leaving a room are just two examples. Look at these problems for what they really are. They are small problems, for which it is not worth having a full-blown crisis. If your spouse just can’t seem to get it right (according to you), let it go. Or better yet, do it yourself and keep quiet about it.
take it easy This is the big one. We tend to think that good relationships magically happen on their own if we are truly in love and have found our soul mate. FAKE. Each Relationship requires regular maintenance, so to speak. You need to work at it, compromise, and find solutions to problems, to keep your relationship well-oiled and running smoothly.
Once you start talking about your differences and looking for areas of agreement, the pattern will be established. It will be easier next time. You will get into the habit of talking and solving problems as they arise. This step alone can produce a very healthy relationship.
no silent treatment This may sound like a small point, even a trivial one, but it is not. If you have something on your mind or in your heart, speak up and tell your partner about it. Contrary to popular opinion, he can’t read your mind, no matter how much you love each other.
We often think that our lover or partner should be able to read our thoughts. Sometimes it even seems like they really can do it. But don’t expect or depend on this. Be clear and direct with your partner, and encourage them to do the same. Always!
no explosions Another seemingly small point. If he’s mad at your spouse over something small, don’t blow it up into some major existential calamity in the relationship. Keep your sense of perspective and proportion. If your partner said something rude or inappropriate to you, say so, but in a gentle and friendly way. This is not a reason for you two to break up!
forgetting to say After being in a relationship for a while, and especially if things seem to be going well, we stop telling our lover how much we love them. We stop buying those gifts or flowers. He thinks of yourself. You would like to be sure that he is loved, wouldn’t you?
We all like to be surprised by small, inexpensive, and thoughtful gifts that say, I’m thinking of you. So do the same with your partner and see how well they respond. Find a way to say I love you and show affection for your spouse. Often. Kissing, it is said, is like drinking salt water; the more you drink, the thirstier you get.
Use these guidelines in your efforts to win back your spouse. Remember Einstein’s definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So do things differently from now on. Don’t expect a miracle. Make yours and you will surely reach your goal of getting your spouse back!
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